Dear Friends Who Take Selfies,
It is true that Selfies are a sign of our self love, irrespective of what you believe. Some people believe that taking a selfie is freaky, a sign of vanity and really overrated but I don’t care. I love taking selfies not because of anything but because I love seeing myself.
I want you to know that I love it when you post pictures of yourself. I know selfies get a lot of bad press, but I think they’re rad. They give me a little window into your life, and you would be amazed at how much I can get out of one little photo. I love your pictures because I love seeing what you’re wearing – the outfits you build give me ideas as to how to mix it up with my own wardrobe, and seeing your amazing combination, it sometimes gives me courage to try clothing that I otherwise might have thought was too outlandish or revealing.
For the ladies, I love seeing how you do your hair and makeup. You look really nice and I wish you would make YouTube tutorials explaining how you get your eyeliner just so or how you combine your lipsticks to get such dark shades. I want you to post pictures every time you change your hair, because seeing you cycle through all those different hair attachments and weave-on colors gives me great ideas on what to do next with my own hair. For the guys, I love to see you each time you get a new hair-cut or shave off your entire hair and trim your side beards. It gets me thinking about the kind of face I’d like to wake up to if I were to be married.
I love when you take selfies in your house. It’s cool to see where you live (though some of you photoshop). When your place is cluttered, it makes me feel better about my own almost messy room. When your house is extremely neat, it encourages me to get my things together and arrange my own room already. I like seeing the things you own and the art you put on your walls, because those things tells me so much about who you are and what you care about.
I love when you take selfies while on vacation. I don’t get to travel so often, so your pictures allow me to live vicariously through you. The excitement on your face when you take a selfie at Obudu cattle ranch, Le Merridian resorts, Utopia hotel, Eiffel tower or by the Arc de Triomphe is perfect and beautiful. I’ve seen a thousand pictures of the famous gates of the house of the Queen of England, but the most interesting ones are the ones with you in it. If I wanted to see a picture of the Great Wall of China all on its own, I could just Google the damn thing. You’re what make those pictures special.
Mostly I love your selfies because I love seeing you feel good about yourself. I love how your face glows when you look like a million bucks and you know it. I love when you celebrate yourself. You deserve to be celebrated. It’s easy for people to roll their eyes at selfies and make jokes about ladies or guys who just want attention, but the truth is that for lots of people – especially people of color, trans men and women, disabled men and women and all the other people who see their existence erased in mainstream media – posting pictures of themselves is a way of challenging our culture’s narrow beauty standards.
Selfies are a way of saying, “I love myself, and I will fight anyone who tries to change that fact.”
Selfies are not a question. They’re not asking “Do you think I’m pretty?”
Selfies are a statement: They say “I am here.”
And to that I’ll say; I see you. I love you. You matter.
Your selfies are inspirational. That might sound corny, but it’s true. When I see you love yourself, it helps me love myself. I suspect the same is true for lots of other people who see your pictures. So please keep taking selfies. Please fill my Facebook and Twitter feeds with your wonderful face. Every picture you post fills me with so much joy. I just love seeing you.