Public Proposals – Fancy or Nah

Hey guys…so it has been a while up in here. *Clears the dusty air* Phew, I know I have not been as active I should have been on here and I hope that I will do better this year. Happy new year guys, by the way. I hope that this is THAT year for you…yes YOU!

So there has been this recent trend of people proposing to their girlfriends and some to their boyfriends in public where people in turn, video and post on social media for all to see the tremendous joy of the newly engaged couples – and the both parties are happy about the outcome obviously.

However, the problem becomes – what happens to the person proposing when the subject of the proposal refuses to accept the ring embedded in a box?

Does it put their relationship in a fix?

Does the relationship cease to exist?

Does it mean there will have to be some sort of break period before the proposer proposes again – this time maybe more planned?

All these seemingly questions that should be thought through before the act of public proposal commences and yet we still see so many public proposals. What would you do if you were proposed to publicly – be you female or male, as is the trend nowadays? *eyes-rolling-till-it-falls-off-towards-the-floor*

Would you scream, cry and then shout for joy?

Would you act surprised as should be the case or maybe you already knew it was coming?

Would you say no to the proposer and walk away from the embarrassing scene?

Would you rather gather up the proposer, hug him/her, not say a single word and lead him/her away from the scene of crime?

What would you rather do in such a situation? Question then becomes, how sure should you be before proposing in public?

Let’s note that proposals can be of three types – Nigerians we are definitely too much.

  1. Secret Proposal – This is a proposal done secretly between the two lovebirds in the privacy of a hotel room, the man’s place, a quiet dinner for two with the entire restaurant reserved for them both, on a boat cruise with the two lovers alone, a private jet – where the man gets to fly the jet w/o interference from one hostess or pilot or better yet, his pilot is that loyal, so the word will never get out. There, you get the picture.
  2. Private intimate proposal – This is a proposal done in private between the two lovebirds in the presence of family and friends in a serene environment specially picked out for the occasion. Usually organized and arranged by friends of the female party or male party – if it is a male that will be proposed to *rolls-eye*. This could occur in a private beach, at a family and friends weekend getaway/vacation, on a boat cruise with mutual friends, at a friendship reunion – where all mutual friends will be present but away from the eyes of the entire world, at a special restaurant or at the girl’s or boy’s [I really don’t like that I have to keep putting male in the picture] home or at the place where the lovebirds first met but this time with only family and friends present.
  3. Public absurd proposal –   This is a proposal done in OPEN public my people. A proposal where the entire masses are involved, irrespective of whether or not mutual friends are present. This kind of proposal is usually an open surprise or a planned surprise – I don’t even know. This usually occurs at the public shopping mall, at the Airport, inside a public airplane, at a bus park, at the Church, at the cinemas – sometimes during a movie [goodness], at the office, on the main express road/by the streets, at a game, at an event/public show, in a public eatery – maybe inside cold stone ice-cream, somewhere on her pizza, inside her jollof rice or inside the wine glass [sigh], at a resort, at the amusement park – anywhere that is public as long as the heart want what it wants, right? Yeah, right!

I definitely do not ever want a PUBLIC proposal because they are not fancy or cute and it seems like utter blackmail. It is a manipulative and awkward way of getting me to say yes – if this ever happens to me, I will walk away without a single word to the proposer.

So here are pictures of public proposals gone wrong…


Public lady


Picture Credit: Google; YouTube

Please proposer’s, know your partner. Do your due diligence – I cannot emphasize this enough. ALWAYS make a hint of what you are likely to do, understand what your other half would want and like, discuss the possibility or not of a proposal, respect their privacy and save yourself from the embarrassment of a ‘NO’ or from the person walking away from you and leaving you to the masses to ridicule and pity. Don’t go overboard with your emotions, please keep them in check. Don’t be like the lady who proposed to her boyfriend at ICM [Ikeja City Mall] of all places. Nada!

So, I ask again…what kind of proposal would you rather prefer guys?

I’d love to read your comments below, so please leave me a message in the comment box.

Thank you for stopping by.



21 thoughts on “Public Proposals – Fancy or Nah”

  1. Looool the part where you referred to public proposals as “Utter Blackmail”. Likkeeeee!!! I’m definitely all for Private Intimate proposals just friends and family and a Secret proposal sounds great too. For that public ehn if I had an idea I might go with the flow but Issa risky something.
    I can just start crying and uttering gibberish.
    Couples should be sure they are on the same page before they proceed to make any moves.
    Thanks for writing about this funny yet touchy topic.
    Upon all people no go still learn.

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    1. My dear…thank you so much for your comments. People will be who they want to be and do what they want to do 🤷‍♀️
      I’m not even a fan of a public something , it’s just a blackmail.😭
      I wish you luck on your own proposal day…sha make sure the gibberish is cute.


  2. Well, I’m glad you speak for yourself. Sincere truth is you never know how you’ll feel until it happens to you. You might be a private person but hey, maybe that’s his way of showing you how much he wants you in his life.
    PS: a lot of ladies already see it coming. You know you’re getting married to this guy but you just don’t know how he’ll ask you.
    I recently got engaged and my fiancé is a private person but he went on his knees in public to propose. That means a lot to me. Before we get ahead of ourselves, maybe it’s overused and exaggerated but don’t forget the intention behind the act. 😊 Thank you

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    1. Oh love, congratulations on your engagement. I am so excited for you already, I can’t stop from smiling.
      That been said, I agree that our perspectives begin to change when we actually fall in deep love that we do not care about the way the proposal is done…all we want to hear is that he has genuinely asked and I am genuinely ready to say yes to forever with him – I understand.
      My problem only stems from the fact that the proposer may not be sure that the lady or the person to be proposed to, is ready to go further with them and grant them a yes. It’s a shame really especially when it might have come as a bit of surprise to the person who doesn’t think she might be ready.
      Maybe I am not seeing clearly because I am yet to fall in love and mayb e all this logic will fall away when the right man waltz into my life, till then…toodles!
      Than you for the comment love. Invite me to dance ijoya oo…2018 is sure looking great.

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  3. The much I know about relationships informs me that they are no body’s business but the people in them. That being said, I do not see why you would propose in public yet you’re not sure of the answer you might get. In any case, you might get a pseudo-yes and you’ll end up with no relationship either way. So, no. No public proposals for me.

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    1. I am in total agreement with you and this is the exact same reason why I wrote this post. Manipulating a yes doesn’t secure you a great future together, so you might as well just get a No from the on-set. However, a private or secret proposal helps you preserve the shame from unknown audience.
      Thank you for your kind comment Miti.

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  4. As for me, myself and I, a private intimate proposal will do…no need for anything public please. Our relationship is not with the public so why must they be made aware of the proposal meant specially for me? I don’t want them to know anything…they can find out later on our wedding day or something. Allow me to enjoy my proposal in peace and quiet with my newly engaged fiance and friends who actually care enough to organize the serene event. Your post is really lovely.


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